Now we are no longer student, but an employee, a worker, doesnt really matter how do you call it.
I have found a phenomenon among friends, people start talking about their own job, their own working life....bla bla....but seldom we talk about those days we went thru together as a student.
It's nice to have new chapter in our life and we move on,
that's a good and mature attitude.
But, I think most of the time,
people wanted to get others' attention about happen to his/her working life,
they learn when to talk but they forget when to listen.
First of all, as I always did, I need to clarify that this blog entry doesnt meant to criticize any single person that I met in my life, but in fact I only wish to criticize the phenomenon.
When we were labelled as student, all of us were same, is like, we have the same blood in our body and we were wearing the same flesh and cloths.
That unify all of us.
But the working life actually separate all of us into different kind of job category.
Now, we have friends who work for media, non-media, production, non-production, office, non-office, thiz and that.
The problem of the people is,
they wish other people can understand more about themselves,
but they doesnt realize the same+opposite conversation intention.
Which is why,
I found one huge problem in a group conversation is that,
people cant stop talking about what happen to themselves without listening to the others.
Now, why do we need gathering?
why do we need chit-chating session?
why do we need to meet up?
why do we need to talk?
Ofcourse it is meant for one to share his/her story to the other, vice-versa.
I didnt mean that one should not talk about his/her story in a group conversation, don't get me wrong.
What I mean is, we should start listening to the other.
There are people who need our help and encouragement,
I knew some of my friends are having a bad time, they are not happy, but nobody is there to listen.
I believe everyone cares about the others in the world,
but I also believe many ppl is too careless to neglect the others who need cares.
I have seen many meaningless group conversation, no point.
I didnt mean that every single conversation must have point, but atleast the minimum requirement is that everyone can participate in the conversation.
When we were student, we share the same laughter and same jokes,
but now I have seen different sub-conversations among a group gathering.
And when one didnt get enough attention in a group conversation,
he/she will start mumbling and complaining how bad their job are,
then when one start gaining attention he/she will start to show off how good their job are.
Example,
First phase: Aiya, my job very susah la, everyday do this everyday do that, so tired lar.
Second phase: But then nvmla~~~~alternative 1. I can see this superstar, 2. I can get many freegift, 3. I can know more people then good for my future, 4. my company pay me well...
Once again, dont get me wrong, no offence to any one of my fren.
The problem, or phenomenon is~~
I found many one of us actually like our job, and the worse part is, they want to prove it that their job is better than the other.
I have heard one bloody fool said,
'Aiya, you guys sit at aircon room don't understand our painful experience wanla'
It doesnt sounds like a complain, it sounds like an insult for person who work in aircon room.
Today I tell you what,
if that bloody fool has one chance in a lifetime to sit in an aircon room,
HE WOULD DEFINITELY SIT ON THE COUCH AND BARK~"Harr.......'' like a dog.
because now he would realize how great it is to rest inside an aircon room.
He is talking like~
those people who sit inside an aircon room is a fucking lazy pig who dont understand the meaning of working.
He is the one who choose to become he himself,
who he is right now,
no one is forcing him in fact.
The problem is, he is actually enjoying his working life,
and he want to prove that he is better by insulting the other.
Now what hinder the progress of sharing story is that,
this person has building a wall or creating a boundary betwen he himself with the other.
Working in an aircon room or an office shouldnt become a reason of one being insulted and working in a non-aircon location doesnt mean that you have something to shout or to be proud of, vice versa.
After all, this is our job.
Everyone should pay respect to the others and stop creating boundary with each other because of different working life.
Non-media thinks the media cannot earn money.
Media thinks the non-media are not loyal to their studying subject.
Production people thinks they are cool,
non-production people thinks production people are KULI.
People who work in big and famous company thinks that they are greater,
what is the point in the end?
For me, I work in both field before, non-production and production, non-media and media.
I enjoy all of these jobs really.
What matter the most, is what I learned, not what I earned~in terms of job position or title.
Is that really important to become a so called DIRECTOR but actually you're not one?
I am a reporter now,
but what define me as a news reporter is not what the job position written in my namecard,
in fact, it is what I know and what I am capable of.
I always believe that anyone can be a news reporter,
listen and salin only ma, how susah could it be?
you try try and see lar, then you will know it is not easy.
Ofcourse everyone can be a reporter,
But, the difference is, are you one good reporter?
As a biz reporter, some people actually told me that entertainment news reporter is like a dog.
I refuse to believe that, it's their job anyway.
The difference of biz reporter and E-news reporter is the news they covered,
but that doesnt make one identity greater than another.
If I can choose again, I will choose to expose myself to biz news instead of E-news,
no doubt about that.
But one thing for sure, my decision is not based on the dog a.k.a. Paparazzi issue,
but instead I wish to learn more about biz news as I found it is more important and solid than the E-news do.
After all, different type of reader or audiences need to consume different kind of news.
We're equally important.
This is real working life, not internship.
A job position as cameraman, producer, writer, senior thiz senior that, professional thiz professional that doesnt define you as a succesful person, but it is your own capability who make you who you are.
So,
Please, go ahead to find a high-salary job,
go ahead to find your favourite job,
go ahead to find a job nearby your house,
go ahead to find an office-admin job,
go ahead to sell insurance,
go ahead to do your production.
I support you, my friend.
Really, I do.
As long as you're happy, then go ahead.
We all should learn how to respect, but not insulting the others.
We need a job, we need to earn money to survive.
It's their job anyway, not yours, why bother?
I know this entry is quite sharp, but frankly, the phenomenon is what I wish to emphasize, not the people.
Bear in mind, no offence~no offence~
But if you insist to get offended, go f**k yourself!
This is JT a.k.a. Dark Shadow,
good night,
and good luck.
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support u, bro.
ReplyDeletehonestly, what you're working now really earn you a lot.i envy you have the chance to learn all that; Knowledge which is really helpful in building business & for entrepreneurs.
That is part and parcel of life..People change as they grow. that's y we have diff frenz at the various stages of life. in primary, we hv primary friends, whom which we might find ourselves drifting apart when we are in secondary. Then after secondary we go to college or Uni and we have a new bunch of friends.
ReplyDeleteThat is why they say that the bestest buddy is the one who can go through all stages with u, grow together with u, be there for u and their respect for u never falter despite the changes. And that friend is usually difficult to find...becz truth is, ppl change and have different interests and POV at diff times. Hmm...tat's y marriages also fail ma! ;P
Don't forget, it is normal one...hmm hang in there buddy. Sometimes I feel like u feel & sometimes I feel that I'm also guilty of complaining a lot n bore my friends too...hehe...but then give and take lo. That is really what human relationship and life really is..bloody long my comment! Sorry ah write blog here already..
thx for you both punya comment.
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